Today I have a manicure with meaning. It is too bad we still have to fight intolerance in this century, but here it still is!
I have joined with a group of bloggers and linked up our purple manicures to show support for the NO H8 movement. If you like, you are invited to do the same with the inlinkz tool below!
This post began about "cuticle" bullying, but it is also about every action on the bullying spectrum, from online anonymous bullying to getting right up in someone's grill. The online bullying we now see in the nail polish community is not unique, unfortunately. Just recently I read of a young girl who killed herself after being bullied on facebook, and this was not the first time I have heard of this happening.
I am addressing this topic now because recently a group of bloggers has formed a coalition intended to intimidate and bully other bloggers. They call it the Bloggers For Cuticle Cleaning Coalition or some such crap.
So, to respond, I am joining with a larger group honoring those who are against bullying by wearing purple on their nails today as part of a No H8 movement. (I did my nails in China Glaze No Plain Jane just for this day. It is a purple/lavennder/pink/beigey duochrome metallic, I like it!)
Unbelievably, this "cuticle police" coalition has ganged up and criticized these people for their manicures, and their personal grooming, and personal online dairies. Now, they have been so brazen as to identify themselves and even put a handy logo on each of their blogs. I won't reproduce it here because it is so ugly.
This situation has upset me very much. You see, I have been the target of bullies myself.
I moved to a new town, I knew no one here when I moved in. I tried to make efforts to make friends, unfortunately for me, I tried to make friends with a bully. I was completely stunned when I was verbally abused and told I should not have bought a house in "her" neighborhood!
It is her uninformed opinion that she should be able to decide who can purchase a home near hers! I cannot explain how disturbing this situation was to me. I was in a bad place before this situation, due to trying life circumstances in the previous six months, and this situation spiraled me into one of the worst places I have ever been.
I wish I could explain to you what this was like for me. I only hope that when this person moves to their next new home, and they don't know anyone, that they have a karmic awakening. : )
|PEACE through NAIL POLISH|
The worst thing about a bully like this, is when they are aware that their intimidating tactics are destroying another person's peace of mind, and they KEEP DOING IT! These people are so sick inside, they cannot even recognize their behavior for what it is, vicious and cruel mental torturing. They will often deny the bullying and say that it was meant to be humorous, or a joke. What they don't acknowledge is that is is not funny to make fun of things that people can not help.
Things like disabilities, illnesses, conditions, skin color, hair color, nail shape, bad eyesight, or weight just to name a few examples. It isn't always funny when you pick on a sensitive subject.
Bullies often think others just need to toughen up! I try, but I cannot understand the mentality of these cruel punishers, these BULLIES.
I wonder what it is that makes these people think they have the right to tell others what they should do? I believe it is the bullies frustration within themselves at their own failings and insecurities which causes them to lash out at others. When they see flaws in others, or other's achievements, it makes them insecure, and then project this insecurity as anger at others, who are, ironically, in a similar situation to themselves.
I hold out hope that they will change one day, as many bullies do, once they themselves are the target of the intimidation tactics. So until they reform, I set my phasers to IGNORE.
I say let's love instead of hate, congratulate! It is so easy to criticize other's mistakes, it takes more effort find something constructive and supportive to say, don't you think?
Have you ever been the victim of bullying?
While I am editing this, my husband is telling me he got a hate note from someone on facebook, but it was deleted because they said it had profanity in it and violated standards. My husband is the nicest person you could hope to meet, and why some anonymous stranger had to type abusive words to him is unfathomable and infuriates me beyond belief. But I consider the source, and have a good laugh at their expense, it is not productive to engage these types individually and respond in kind!
I am sharing the words of Amanda at amandalish.com, she writes:
Bullying is not funny. It is not cool. It is not right. And more importantly, it is not okay.
Most of us are, thankfully, residents of countries that support tolerance and many of our families have settled in these places simply for that reason. Generations later, it is our responsibility to perpetuate that message of tolerance across our new social platforms, including the internet.
As members of the nail polish blogging community, we all share a love of beauty, color, and lacquer. Other than that, we are remarkably different: from our race to our religion to our hair color...even to our polish application techniques. To marginalize anyone because of those differences is completely unacceptable and today I take a stand against that. I refuse to allow other people's view of "normal" dictate how I behave, believe, and blog.
In solidarity with a multitude of bloggers linked below, my purple manicure represents my proud commitment to the No H8 movement. Today, November 8, I dedicate my post to ending bullying of any kind and to encouraging diversity and tolerating imperfection among our colorful community.
Report Cyber Bullying
National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 800.273.TALK (8255)
EDIT: I have since removed words from this post, if my words offended you I apologize, that was not my intention. I did not intend to turn around and make anyone else feel bullied or offended, of course. I think we can all work to grow a sense of humor about this, now you can quit commenting "anonymous" because I got the message after the first twenty times LOL! Just stop this now.
Love not H8! Let's be friends now, everyone. Peace through Polish.